I think one of the most important things I’ve learned in life is that variety is important. I don’t mean that having certain constants in life are bad. I myself enjoy schedules, lists, and being able to count on certain things each day. What I mean is it’s important not to get so stuck in a tradition or schedule that it’s not enjoyable anymore.
One example from my life is reading. No, I’ve never not enjoyed reading, but my reading was lacking in variety and it made each book a little less of an escape and a little less of a learning experience. I was saved by professors reminding me that a librarian should not only be well-read but well-rounded in their reading. In my classes there is a ton of required reading, thankfully much of it is fiction, and this led to added variety for me. I had never read a graphic novel, and now I’ve read around fifteen in the last few months. I had read very few children’s books, and now I’ve read over one hundred. I had never read a book about a trans character, and now I have a shelf specifically for LGBTQ fiction. Variety allows the mind to fully absorb what it is seeing and apply it. For me adding variety into my reading was a step toward recognizing that unexpected change isn’t such a bad thing.
I’ve always loved changed when it was something I could see coming, and if it was a big change that allowed me time to get used to it afterward. However, in my adult life I have tended to hate small changes in my day to day plan. Any detours could send me over the edge straight into panic. Part of this was having Bipolar disorder, but another contributing factor was that I didn’t know how to let go. Having a husband who is definitely type B has helped me to breathe, calm down, and accept change as it comes. It wasn’t easy, and I still have flare-ups if I’m stressed, but in general I laugh more and I have the ability to be spontaneous. Variety is not the enemy, change doesn’t have to be negative, and today can have as many possibilities as tomorrow.